Loneliness is usually associated with being single. For some reasons, our society decided that being single is bad.
– Oh, why are you still single? Poor you. But don’t worry, you will find someone soon.
But why nobody is asking couples: Oh, why are you in a relationship?
Being a whole as single is better than being a half in a relationship. Besides, having a partner doesn’t secure you from feeling lonely. If there is no connection between you two, or you and your friends – you will feel lonely while being in the crowd.
Loneliness – is just this: disconnection.
We feel lonely when we are disconnected, first of all from ourselves, and we desperately need other people to distract us from our own scary thoughts.
I’ve read once about silent retreats. People who just arrived there looked terrified by what’s going to happen to them in the next few weeks of silence. While when they were leaving after the retreat – they were happy as never before.
We fear loneliness because we dont want to face our demons. We are afraid of what might come to the surface if we are not distracted by talking or watching movies.
But the only way to deal with anything in our life – is to face it. Just be with it.
Be as lonely as you possibly can. Feel that pain of facing your darkness. When you face it for several days in a row – it leaves, and something wonderful starts to happen. You are no longer scared of yourself . You know yourself from the inside out. You’ve met your demons, you’ve accepted them, and you are now complete.
I’ve been following Kyle’s Cease advice, and for more than a week I am meditating for an hour daily. It’s making miracles. I am contacted by people who want to work with me. I am receiving warm feedbacks on the posts I write. I am going to the state institutions to solve bureaucratic matters and Im having fun with it. People tell me that I look energetic and happy.
To live an easy life – means to never resist anything that comes to you. Whether it’s loneliness, pain, loss, illness – anything. Resistance makes things worse. Acceptance is the first step towards transformation.