For years we have been chasing success, money, fame, and power. We have been scoring in achieving goals. In impressing our boss. Our partner. Ourselves.
And for years we didn’t stop. We felt that we are never good enough. We are not productive enough. We don’t have enough. We must work harder. More. Get more money. Get more success. Get more recognition.
Then we will be happy.
Just that another promotion – then I will be happy. Oh no, I’m still not happy! Well, I guess I have to get a higher salary! Wait, again not it. So I need to have a fabulous partner! No?? Ok, I know! I have to become super popular. Again didn’t work?!!!
When am I going to be happy ??
We are a goal oriented generation. Our world has expanded so much, like never before. Our horizons open up, we see that everything is possible. And so we want and want and want some more. And we get it all. And still remain unhappy. We remain unsatisfied with our choices and our achievements. We never have enough.
We should have done so much more!
But the question is – would it make us happy if we did more? Would it really be a game changer if we got that job which we didn’t? Or that lover who rejected us? Or same high salary as our friend had?
Can you wholeheartedly confirm that if you got all those things or people – it would make you satisfied with your life? And you could state that you lived it to the fullest?
I personally can’t confirm that. If I had more money or more attention or better positions – I would still feel that something is missing.
I would be still missing purpose.
Wanting and getting things is nice. Wanting more money is perfectly normal. It is our means of survival, and it’s freaking scary if we don’t have enough.
But wanting just for the sake of wanting – will not bring you the satisfaction you seek. It will not make you happy. It will just temporarily cover up the hole inside of you. Distract you from yourself.
It’s when you switch your attention to bringing the value into this world – then things start to change.
It sounds as a cliche, but it’s true.
I always felt bad about myself for not having that altruistic motive of serving the world and making a difference. I always wanted everything for myself. More fame, more recognition, more money. And I was wondering – am I bad because of that? Is it bad to want something for myself?
I realized that it’s not bad. It just doesn’t work.
If I don’t really have a bigger reason behind, the answer to the question “why” – it won’t make me happy. I won’t enjoy it that much. And I will start pursuing another thing right after getting the first one.
So in my new search for fulfilling job and calling – I’m trying to go from a place of “why”. I’m looking for a job where my skills and talents can serve other people.
Because I want to contribute to making a difference. Because I want to help people to open up and connect instead of building walls. Because I want to show to people that it’s safe for them to express love.
When I say these words to myself – I feel huge resonance inside. I feel that Im heading the right direction.
Of course, I am worried about income. You can’t create something new and great from a place of lack and fear, so having money to sustain myself is an important factor.
But there are so many examples of great people who followed their “whys” and everything else just settled itself.
You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
It’s not just WHAT or HOW you do things that matters; what matters more is that WHAT and HOW you do things is consistent with your WHY
Happiness shouldn’t be a goal, it should be a habit. Take the focus off doing, and start being every day. Be loving, be grateful, be helpful, and be a spectator to your own thoughts.
Allow yourself to be in the moment, and appreciate the moment. Take the focus off everything you think you need to do, and start being. I promise you, happiness will follow.
The Universe is a balanced place to live. If we are willing to live in harmony with it, simply by focusing on how can we help – then everything else will fall into place.
inspired by Fabulous Mondays blog