Dealing with rejection

I know how painful it can be, being rejected by someone whom you love deeply, whom you consider the king or the queen of your heart, without whom your life will fall apart.

Every human being goes trough thousands of rejections in their lifetimes. Whether from the loved ones, friends, boss, bank, job offer. Whether it was life changing rejection or just turned down invitation to hang out – it always hurts.

But what if I tell you that rejection is simply someone’s else opinion ? It’s that guy’s opinion that you are not good enough, or that boss opinion that you are not productive enough, or that bank’s which rejected you in landing money – that you are not reliable enough.

But you yourself, know the truth. You know you did your best, you are good enough, pretty, productive or anything else you want to be.

Then why do you feel so bad about that? Why someone’s else opinion is more important to you than yours? Who gave them an authority to decide whether you are good enough or not?

You did.

You put that person on pedestal for no reason and decided that from now on he will rule your kingdom. And as he is your king, his opinion has more value than yours.

All of a sudden you forgot how many times your mom or dad told you that you are beautiful. How many men(or women) told you that they love you and that you are amazing. How many gifts or signs of appreciation you received from friends. How many bosses and colleagues told you how reliable and trustworthy you are.

You forget and toss that away only because of one person who appeared out of nowhere. Who didnt know you before your first meeting. Who has no idea what’s going on in your soul, what fears and dramas you are dealing with, and how loving, creative and enjoyable you actually are. You gave him permission to have more authority in your life than you, your family, friends and loved ones all together.

Your partner, boss, friend – they are not special. Not more special than you are. If you think about their life – you ll find out that there is nothing extraordinary. Nothing which you can’t have, and for sure nothing which says that they are more valuable than you. And very often, they actually have less.

 You are your own rule-maker.  You set the guidelines. You decide how well you’ve done, how well you are doing. For you are the one who’s decided who and what you really are and who you want to be. And you are the only one who can assess how well you are doing.

 from “Conversation with God” by Neale Donald Walsch

Rejection is simply someone’s else opinion. Accept it with gratitude – it helps you to eliminate people and events which should not be in your life. Focus on your own opinion and on those who love and appreciate you the way you are ❤

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